Monthly Archives: July 2015

How To Stay Positive – Part One

• Find the optimistic viewpoint in a negative situation

One of the simplest ways to build a more positive outlook is to ask more helpful questions as often as possible. If you’ve experienced a negative situation, ask yourself what’s the positive side of the whole thing, what have I learnt, what opportunity did I have?

• Live in a positive environment

Who you choose to spend your time with and the input you get form further away like the TV, Internet and magazines will have a huge effect on your outlook. Ask yourself what are the three most negative sources of information you spend time on. Consider the answers and then start spending less time checking out those sources.

• Go slowly

Experience has shown that things don’t go too well when you try to think, talk, eat and move around the world really quickly. Stress will build up and negative thoughts will start coming to your mind. Take a minute, slow down and let your mind and body calm down. It will become easier to think more clearly and finding an optimistic and constructive perspective will become a piece of cake.

Practical Steps To Personal Development

Many tips sound good in theory, but when it comes to actually applying them, that’s where it becomes tricky. Here are a few practical steps that can help you in this lifelong process of personal development.

• Organizing your time – If you’re considering making changes in your life, finding additional time often poses a problem. No matter what the reason is, looking at how you spend your time will encourage you to think of ways your time could be managed more effectively. It’s important to learn to say no, to delegate tasks, to make a to-do list etc.

• Producing a personal CV or resume – Drawing up a CV or resume is not only necessary when applying for jobs, it can also be very useful for your own benefit and will help you appraise the skills you have gained through education, training, employment, voluntary work, leisure etc.

• Looking at your transferable skills – Many skills that you have learnt and developed can be successfully applied to other areas of your life. Good listening skills are important in many aspects of your life, for example. These skills are known as transferable skills.

• Overcoming barriers to learning a new skill – Learning a new skill will broaden the opportunities opening to you, and at the same time, empower you as an individual. There are many things that prevent people from learning new skills, like lack of confidence, economic situation, lack of time etc. You should learn how to effectively overcome these barriers for the sake of your own progress.

How To Improve Emotional Intelligence – Part Two

In our previous article we talked about the importance of emotional intelligence and we also wrote about three ways that can help you improve your EQ. We’ve mentioned that you should find a way to reduce your negative emotions, stay cool, manage stress and try to be assertive and express your difficult emotions when necessary. Here we bring you part two of this article and continue with three more useful tips.

4. The ability to stay proactive, not reactive when faced with a difficult person.

Unreasonable people are something we meet every day, and it’s a fact. But, sometimes we may be “stuck” with a difficult individual at work, for example. There are two solutions here – one is to let that person affect us and ruin our day. And the other one is to be proactive and deal with it.

5. The ability to bounce back from adversity.

Life is not always easy. How we choose the way we think, feel and act in relation to life’s challenges can often make the difference between hop versus despair, optimism versus frustration and victory versus defeat. We can learn a lesson from each challenging situation we confront. Asking yourself constructive questions based on learning and priorities can help you gain the proper perspective which can help you deal with the situation.

6. The ability to express intimate emotions in close, personal relationships.

The ability to effectively express and validate tender, loving emotions is essential to maintaining close personal relationships. In this case, “effective” means sharing intimate feelings with someone in an appropriate relationship, in a manner that’s nourishing and constructive, and being able to respond affirmatively when the other person does the same.

How To Improve Emotional Intelligence – Part One

Emotional intelligence (EQ or EI) is defined as the ability to understand, manage and effectively express one’s own feelings, as well as to engage and navigate successfully with those of others. Emotional intelligence is something we need in our everyday life, but it is also essential to have it if we want to be successful in our career. Studies have shown that 90% of high performers at the work place possess high EQ, while 80% of low performers don’t possess it. Here are three ways how you can improve your EQ.

1. The ability to reduce negative emotions

The most important aspect of EQ is probably our ability to effectively manage our own negative emotions, so they don’t overwhelm us and affect our judgment. If we want to change the way how we feel about a situation, we must first change the way we think about it.

2. The ability to stay cool and manage stress

Stress has become a part of our everyday life. There is no person in this world that hasn’t experienced some level of stress in life. How we handle stressful situations can make the difference between being assertive versus reactive and poised versus frazzled. When under pressure, the most important thing to keep in mind is to stay calm.

3. The ability to be assertive and express difficult emotions when necessary

There are times in life when it’s important to set our own boundaries appropriately so people know where we stand. These can include exercising our right to disagree (without being disagreeable), saying “no” without feeling guilty, setting our own priorities, getting what we paid for and protecting ourselves from duress and harm. The best way to express ourselves is to try to use the XYZ technique – I feel X when you do Y in situation Z.